Sunday at a friends

The next day we were invited to my wife's friends home for their traditional Sunday BBQ. The first time I went I shared my "other side" with two lady friends, they were disappointed I didn't come en-fem but I usually have a busy day Saturdays it's just to much effort for Sunday.

It was getting late and another couple showed up who travel from Mt Holly, NJ about 50- to 60 miles away, we didn't have a chance to interact with them because they were sitting at another table (there were about 15 people at the BBQ) as we were leaving we were saying good night and I regreated not being able to talk with them. The wife asked where we were from and how we new the hosts, I mentioned then know me and my "Twin Sister" the lady questioned what my twin sister looked like and I JUST had to share my "Louise" picture, she said "OMG we met you at Bubba Macks about 20 years ago" she went on saying we were amazed by your looks and how everyone endeared you. 

I've mentioned to my wife many times some of the interesting encounters I have when out but without being with me it's had to believe, so this one she witnessed personally.   

Saturday night 9/11/2021

 Saturdays are a typical day and night I go out, I've had to limit the radius that I travel now due to people buying me Adult beverages, I try to stay at a 3 limit but sometimes a drink is poured before I have a chance to pass it off.

This Saturday I went to local restaurant lounge where the owner is very conservative (as I am) but polite towards me. I found a seat between two couples and the lady to my left started a conversation, we only talked about 2 minutes before the lady on the other side of a gentleman next to me recognize the lady to my left was her cousin and wanted to talk with her, I offered to swap seats so they could sit together and wound up next to a guy (about late 50's) who looked like he worked-out and was, possibly a carpenter or other trade person. I asked what he was eating because it looked good and he took the menu and looked it up for me, which I thought was very considerate. His main course came and I mentioned the food was always great there and I take my wife a few times a year. He sort of  questioned my statement by saying "Wife" I said yes and he said "well I guess at the stage of our country with guys marring guys women do the same" I said well I am a "guy" he looked and said I had no idea, I mentioned I considered it a compliment although I never considered myself passable, he disagreed he was convinced I was a female.  

 

One Reason for Cross-dressing

(mine at least)

 Not to be repetitive but to re-inform those who do not know my Cross-dressing background, I have cross-dressed (tried on women's clothes since about age 6-7). I have been out in public, on and off for the past 27 years since my wife had me made-up as a Halloween trick and when I finally discovered "I just never liked myself" or felt that I was never comfortable being me as me (Not that I ever nor now want to be a Female) I just didn't want to be me.

During the first few years of deciding to share "Louise" I also wanted to find where I fit in this, unique, aberrant, miss-understood lifestyle. In trying to discover that my wife and I (she's my HERO) found several cross-dresser venues to attend, they're weren't many, a couple in NYC, one in Staten Island, some after-hour Lounges in Philly a Gay Club in Atlantic City and New Hope, I'm sure there were others but many of the attendees were the same people.

As I/we became a little more comfortable with each-other (meaning we were able to talk to other CDs) I (at least) discovered many seemed to have some unusual traits, many seemed to be either Bi-sexual, Gay or (so they claimed) "Trapped in the wrong body".

I can really not understand those situations, that doesn't mean they may not exist, but I've never been attracted to a Male, I never felt born in the wrong body, but I will say out of about 300+/- CD's I've met, some looked very good, but almost 100% were way over the edge of reality and that was enough to scare the "poop" out of me, the last thing I need is a screwball in a dress as a friend or anything else.

 So getting back to my initial reasons why I myself Cross-dress is I always felt unwanted, starting with my mother who I think gave me through her constant verbal and physical abuse a very low self esteem and causing me to never like myself, in other words a form of "PTSD" 

(Post traumatic stress disorder)

PTSD has been called by other names usually associated with Military conditions i.e. combat fatigue, shell shock amongst many others.

I doubt if it matters whether being beat by a parent or school principle or feeling mistreated by peers or anyone else makes a difference, if you're trying to live the best you can it doesn't matter how abuse manifests itself "abuse is abuse" and you deal with it as best you can. 

I finally found happiness by becoming "Louise".

 

Two Examples of what I went though, not exactly the same spcificts but close enough.

 

 

I was looking at some older pictures I felt I would share

These are all about 10 years ago.

 

A few older pictures

I found a couple older Photos I wanted to share

The Home Depot

Not exactly about Louise although I'll mention a couple recent interactions.

I like to make short stories long, please forgive me.

Since we moved into out "Move In Condition" house 3 and 1/2 years ago, I'm still moving in. I've been making 1-3 trips a week out to our local Home Depot (I've posted some other events in previous Postings)

Last week I was considering screen doors for our patio, it shouldn't have been a problem other than they are Anderson Series 400 French Doors (8 Ft x 3 Ft) so even though they offer 3 different styles of screen designs, Sliders, Swing opening or Roll-up (like a horizontal shade But in a vertical position) they do not off that last option for the 8 Ft door.

To the point though, I know one of the "window" guys, he and his brother were customers of mine, I got there late and he was leaving but told his workmate what I needed. I usually don't recognize people out of context and I didn't  recognize him although he said I'm sure you can't wait to go out to local place he and I go to, I asked if he had seen me there and he said of course, I see you almost every week, he was very polite and even though I didn't buy to 600.00 pair of screens from him (they're 390.00 at Home Depot) he was very polite to me.

Yesterday I went out again for a couple maintenance items and was walking by Sprinkler section, there was a "Black" couple (please I don't know what Blacks prefer to be called, just like they're 10 different terms for the Cross-dressing community "god forbid" if you call them the wrong Trans type.). I saw him looking at fittings and asked if I could help (I just repaired mine some I'm a "handyman" expert). I mentioned a Sprinkler supply down the road that had a better selection and he said he knew where it was. I asked if he was from the area because this place just relocated and it's in an Industrial Park area where typical consumers wouldn't be familiar with.

He said yes and he said he grew up and went to the same schools I did, he also mentioned he was a retired electrocution because he saw I had a Large 300 Watt LED bulb, he said he did a lot of Gas Station conversions from Mercury Vapor to LEDs. So we got into a little conversation due to me owning 4 locations at one time. He mentioned to me his Father had owned an Exclusively "Black" bar that I went to Many years ago and that I had met a "Black" boxer who was a really nice person who asked me to come there one night, he said "that was my father". What are the odds of meeting the son of a person I met at least 60 (sixty years earlier at Home Depot). I told him I walked into the bar and excused myself if I might make a "Racist" comment, but all I saw was Eye's and Teeth" with that he and his wife lost it, they were holding on to each other to keep from falling on the floor in laughter, tears were running down their cheeks.

I did have to share with them my "Louise" drivers license and he said, well I'm retired but if you need any electrical work, I do it for friends only and I want you as my friend.

I just had to post this and when ever I go by that place (closed now) I tell my wife that story, I must mention it to her 3-4 times a year because it was so memorable. 

My Neighbor

This is just a short posting about my across the street neighbor.

This lady is associated with a popular "Family" and for lack of a better term "Collection Agency" who used baseball bats as their preference to deliver messages possibly due to being a more efficient delivery system than Letters.

Anyway, for what ever reason she's attracted to me in both personas and likes to take liberty's by pinching my rear anatomy (Butt).

She also makes comments about my choice of clothing outfits. Yesterday I mentioned I had a new pair of Leggings I was wearing. 

Around noon time today I noticed a roofing truck because she had damage a few weeks ago but when the roofer was there today it was pouring rain, I called to tell her and break her chops a little about the timing, she came back with the Old AOL quote "Wadda ya wearing" I broke into laughter and told her to come out of her garage (faces our house) and I'll show her, I had on Black & White print leggings, she went nuts and got a pair of Binoculars for a closer look. My wife was sitting on the porch bench laughing like hell.

Last Friday at The Nail Solon

The Nail Salon

Friday 03/20/20

Last week my nails needed to be refilled and I wanted to try a little different style "Tiger Claw" (I think). Because I like to work around my house a lot I decided to do a Mini style to avoid being to long or pointed, but still visually pleasing.

As usual and being the the Salon was busy a new client sat next to me, I didn't recognize her immediately and I was somewhat depressed due to the stock market performance due to the "Virus" so I wasn't very talkative with my my Nail Tech, she noticed and asked why, I just mentioned the market.

The lady next to me turned and asked "are you Lou" I said yes, she said I recognized your voice. We have known each-other for at least 20+ years but haven't seen each-other the past 2 years or so and she never met me as Lou and she changed too.

I guess in my case, not only does my "Louise" persona leave a lasting impression but so does my voice.