Our party was a blast. I had invited 4 people from the Crab Trap where I go most Fridays and Saturdays, most of these people only know Louise for about 3-4 years. Well about 25 of them came, I was really impressed that people would come to a "Cross Dressers" home without reservation because the accept her so much. I was very grateful.
We had about 75+ people here and I would have to say it was a great success, I got to bed about 1 AM and my wife, her friend and an old Friend of mine went to bed at 3:30 when he left.
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Monday, December 15, 2008
Friday Lunch
Friday 12/12/08 I asked my friend Heather to lunch. She had to pick me up at the car dealership where I had my car for instillation of some accessory's I had purchased.
When I had driven into the shop I was greeted by the service writer I had talked with two days before (Wednesday) he greeted me and started to write a work order up as he walked around my car and then realise who I was by the time he got back to the front door, he said politely "I didn't recognize you"
I waited in the show room till Heather picked me up and introduced her to two of the sales people. We went to our usual place in Somers Point, I go there with my insurance man too and I'm known both ways. As we were waiting for our lunch two my my old costumers came in as couples but not together, One of them is a plastic surgeon who has all his photography on the walls of the restaurant, he does outstanding work and does his own printing.
I had to use the rest room, I used the men's because in a small place like that most. I assume realize I'm a guy, But Heather said as I walked to the rest room I did turn heads and she said one person was going to go in also but walked away when the saw me enter.
The other couple were customers from about the first till last day with me at my business, as we left I had to present myself to them, the doctor had already met me and they were involved with eating and I used decorum rather than make a pest out of myself, he had already acknowledged my when they first walked in. I walked up the the gentleman and offered my hand and he apprehensively shook it and asked, do I know you (Heather was next to me) before I had a chance to say anything his wife said "it's Lou from the service station" I have to admit the gentlemen didn't really know what to say or do, he had a totally blank look on his face, it was a classic, do I laugh, smile, run, he was very confused. His wife said at least twice, "you look great" I was very satisfied with the out come of comments.
After that I asked Heather if she would help me set up my wife's karaoke equipment for a party we were having Saturday, Millie met us at home and it only took a few Min's to set it up. Heather had to get home so she dropped me back at the dealership.
I had time to kill and a new bakery just opened nearby, I stopped in just to see how it was and as I was waiting to order some bread a person comes over and says "Hi Louise, it's Jerry Gormly" he's the ex senators brother, a moment later the Senators son Shawn walks over and says "Hi Louise" I look at their table and there was the senator, yes, I went over and he said hi ya Louise and gave me a hand shake. It's very difficult to express the felling you get being recognized to high powered people in normal situations, but in a very crowed restaurant where everyone knows someone like this Senator and me as Louise was just beyond words.
When I had driven into the shop I was greeted by the service writer I had talked with two days before (Wednesday) he greeted me and started to write a work order up as he walked around my car and then realise who I was by the time he got back to the front door, he said politely "I didn't recognize you"
I waited in the show room till Heather picked me up and introduced her to two of the sales people. We went to our usual place in Somers Point, I go there with my insurance man too and I'm known both ways. As we were waiting for our lunch two my my old costumers came in as couples but not together, One of them is a plastic surgeon who has all his photography on the walls of the restaurant, he does outstanding work and does his own printing.
I had to use the rest room, I used the men's because in a small place like that most. I assume realize I'm a guy, But Heather said as I walked to the rest room I did turn heads and she said one person was going to go in also but walked away when the saw me enter.
The other couple were customers from about the first till last day with me at my business, as we left I had to present myself to them, the doctor had already met me and they were involved with eating and I used decorum rather than make a pest out of myself, he had already acknowledged my when they first walked in. I walked up the the gentleman and offered my hand and he apprehensively shook it and asked, do I know you (Heather was next to me) before I had a chance to say anything his wife said "it's Lou from the service station" I have to admit the gentlemen didn't really know what to say or do, he had a totally blank look on his face, it was a classic, do I laugh, smile, run, he was very confused. His wife said at least twice, "you look great" I was very satisfied with the out come of comments.
After that I asked Heather if she would help me set up my wife's karaoke equipment for a party we were having Saturday, Millie met us at home and it only took a few Min's to set it up. Heather had to get home so she dropped me back at the dealership.
I had time to kill and a new bakery just opened nearby, I stopped in just to see how it was and as I was waiting to order some bread a person comes over and says "Hi Louise, it's Jerry Gormly" he's the ex senators brother, a moment later the Senators son Shawn walks over and says "Hi Louise" I look at their table and there was the senator, yes, I went over and he said hi ya Louise and gave me a hand shake. It's very difficult to express the felling you get being recognized to high powered people in normal situations, but in a very crowed restaurant where everyone knows someone like this Senator and me as Louise was just beyond words.
Monday, December 08, 2008
Cycling Club Christmas banquit
I belong to two Cycling groups, one is a club with what would be considered B class riders and the other who consider themselves elite are A+ riders, the A+ group have an issue with Louise and have, for the most part ostracized me (oh well, their loss). The other group which is about 50+ members have absolutely no issue with Louise and welcome her.
Another point is that I was the only incumbent of all the offices reelected to my post as "Club Photographer"
This group has three of us named Lou and we felt it would be interesting if we had our picture together (My wife Millie was the photographer).
Biker Bar II
If you've followed my posts I had gone to a Biker Bar about a month ago. Well I return where the same big white hair Biker approached me again. This time I asked if we could have our picture together. One of his (so called) friends made a comment to him, "you ain't right". As you know, a picture is worth a thousand words, so you'll understand what was meant by the comment.
Monday, November 24, 2008
Louise in Church
Saturday night I had planed on going to Diabloique, without getting into a long story, I didn't. Instead I had noticed that there was an African dance group performing at a Church about 20 Min's from our home. I figured I like some of that high energy music and it would be interesting to go as Louise, what was the worse that would happen, would I be rejected by a group who preaches accepting everyone.
It was a very nice event, I'm not sure if anyone noticed me, but my wife Millie said she saw one woman and a younger male who she said she though could have been gay checking me out.
It was about a 2 hour, very energy packed event, lots of jumping and kicking, almost like martial art's. I guess from where they come from (Kenya) you need to protect yourself.
Their tour leader a (Caucasian) lady explained that they do this for donations only and are in this country for one year. They're air far is donated to them, when they get home they share everything they collected with not only all of their family's which are layers deep but also with the villages. She said they live in those corrugated steel shacks with only 3 rooms where you may have 20+ plus people. It really makes you think how good we have it here even with the taxes we pay.
I forgot to have Millie take a picture of me in the church but I have one of the dancers.
Sunday, November 09, 2008
The Biker Bar
I had been invited to a restaurant where the owner was introducing a new chief, they offered "free" (that's the operative word here) Hors D'Oeuvre's and a cash bar. I was somewhat apprehensive about attending but I know the owner personally and he said the upstairs area was much different than downstairs. The downstairs is a "Biker Bar" and one of the qualifications to be a waitress there is to have as many tattoos as possible showing and to drink and fight like a man. In other words, I'm 5'3, and was scared to death (not really) walking into the joint.
And as to my better judgement, as soon as I walked in an older lady recognized me and started talking with me at the door, within 5 seconds a huge man about 6' and a good 250# with a white beard, Harley Motor Cycle shirt, and a bottle of beer in his hand came over, put his arm around my shoulders and said "honey, I'd do anything for you" he was much more explicit than that, but you can use your imagination. I declined his offer and wiggled up the stairs (I love being a bitch).
I was very impressed with the upstairs, it was crowded and the people were what you would consider average, although the Mayor was there, we know each other because I used to do business with him for about 30 years. He usually tends to be obnoxious, not only to me but everyone, but I was pleasantly surprised, he greeted me with a hand shake and hug and even introduced me to a couple people. I don't like to overstay my welcome so I stepped away and ordered a glass of wine next to him, he may have though I was out of hearing range when I heard him say to the people near him "Lou was one of the best auto techs in the area and a great guy, I really like him". I have to say I was impressed.
The rest of the 1-1/2 hours were filled by talking with two men, one who voluntarily told me he was gay and was open about it and his married friend and I took it as they were friends and nothing more. I also bumped into the ex tax collector for the city who was also local theater with my wife His wife just loved the Louise image, but he seemed to be uncomfortable, it could have been the fact that he just had his knee replace a few weeks earlier and was uncomfortable. I did meet one other "Celebrity" there, he goes by Capt Joel Fogel, his father owned one of the largest commercial refrigeration manufacturing company's in the country and supplied all the supermarkets with them. He's a would famous explorer, he was so impressed with me he had to give me his business card. I know he's spent a lot of time in Africa, I hope he doesn't want to take me there and have me meet some cannibals.
As I went to leave, the big guy from downstairs was waiting for me, again he grabbed me and started to introduce me to some of the biker group, I really doubt I'm interested being someones "biker bitch" but it was courageous on his part to accept me for what I am, I'm sure he was harmless, but I wasn't going to find out, I excused myself and left.
Louise
Tuesday, October 21, 2008
The Crab Trap
The Crab Trap in Somers Point, NJ is one of my favorite places to go on Friday and Saturday nights, I'm just one of the girls.
Food & Wine convention
I guess with all the food shows I go to you must think I'm getting fat, well you guessed right, I need to get on a diet and exercise routine.
Sunday 10 19 08, my wife got a call from a friend he had passes for us to go to the food show at the AC Convention Center. It was really a disgrace, it was about half what is was when they started a few years ago, admission is 18.00 and parking is 10.00, most people go with another person so 50 bucks is just not in every one's budget for such a small show.
Anyway, I didn't realize the also had a wine tasting (private) area, but with the passes we had we were allowed entry. The vendors were giving a small sample of what they distributed, but Louise was offered at least a half glass at every section she went to (I did visit the Amaretto) station 4 times. As I staggered out, my wife said my feet were crocked and to "GIVE ME THE Key's, your drunk).
Afterwards we met a friend for dinner (more food).
Another Epicurian
Monday my wife and I (Louise) went to another dinner function. I was greeted at the registration table with a big Hi Louise, please sign in here, by one of the offices of the group.
It is so rewarding to be accepted by "traditional" people, just her little acknowledgement allowed other people who may or may not be aware of what I am to become more comfortable with me. I am finding the more I stay the same, the more people change.
One other interesting fact was that Frank LoBiano or local Congressman was also there, we had met a few times before and one day he happened to be at the gym I go to as myself (Lou). I had to acknowledge him and said we had met before, he of course did as I do and said " you look familiar (trying to be polite) but I just can't place you, so I said this will help refresh your memory and handed my Louise card to him. He laughed and now he's much more comfortable with me. He greeted me with a big smile and hand shake as he said "we've met before".
Monday, October 13, 2008
Out of mouths of babes and NYC
My wife and I went up to NNJ this weekend for our grand daughters 3 rd birthday. I had also promised an old acquaintance (another) CD I would go to dinner and a play with her on Sunday, she's a very senior citizen and gets tickers for 5.00 dollars.
My family and I went to breakfast at the same famous "Pancake house" *The Kid from Brooklyn" goes to. I was hoping he would be there. After breakfast we went home where my GD open some more presents from the party the day before (Saturday).
I had to meet my friend about 3 PM at the CDI apartment in NYC just a block from Port Authority bus terminal. I started to dress and was done about 1:30 or so. As I came out of the bedroom which is off the living room of my kids place, my grand daughter looks at me, smiles and says "Pop pop, you have hair" then she said "pop pop, your silly" she also wanted to touch my hair and said it wasn't real. I have to say, for a 3 year old she is sharp and has a good way of expressing herself. Her mother was there also and later my wife said absolutely nothing was mentioned after I left. I really wanted to try to avoid my GD from meeting Louise at least till she was older, but maybe she will be accepting, I guess I'll find out.
I got to the city without fan fare, whether people noticed or not I'm not sure, I know one girl had to because I kept staring at her, she was about 6'1 and stunning and I couldn't take my eye's off of her, she smiled at me and then started to read her book. I got to my destination right on time.
My friend, Joanna and I had a glass of wine, talked for a few minutes and then took a walk to B&H Camera store, if you haven't been there you have no idea what you're missing, they must do 1-3 million dollars a day in business. We had also walked through a street flea market, it was interesting and when I was up there before I went with my wife. As I was looking for my friend who was looking at other booths a gentleman came up to me and asked if I wouldn't mind him taking my picture. Of course Louise loves attention and to model so he took a picture and gave me his card so I could email for it, but Louise is a step ahead (usually) and gave him one of mine. About 2 hours later as we were going to the theater my phone rang and it was him, he said if I was in town for a few days he would like for me to come to his studio to model, I had to decline his invitation for a couple reasons, first I was leaving after the play and I pretty much know what he would have wanted for a gratuity for his service and I'm just not about that.
I got to my son's home about 10 PM and after loading the car we got home about 2 AM, we took about a 1 hour nap at a rest stop.
My family and I went to breakfast at the same famous "Pancake house" *The Kid from Brooklyn" goes to. I was hoping he would be there. After breakfast we went home where my GD open some more presents from the party the day before (Saturday).
I had to meet my friend about 3 PM at the CDI apartment in NYC just a block from Port Authority bus terminal. I started to dress and was done about 1:30 or so. As I came out of the bedroom which is off the living room of my kids place, my grand daughter looks at me, smiles and says "Pop pop, you have hair" then she said "pop pop, your silly" she also wanted to touch my hair and said it wasn't real. I have to say, for a 3 year old she is sharp and has a good way of expressing herself. Her mother was there also and later my wife said absolutely nothing was mentioned after I left. I really wanted to try to avoid my GD from meeting Louise at least till she was older, but maybe she will be accepting, I guess I'll find out.
I got to the city without fan fare, whether people noticed or not I'm not sure, I know one girl had to because I kept staring at her, she was about 6'1 and stunning and I couldn't take my eye's off of her, she smiled at me and then started to read her book. I got to my destination right on time.
My friend, Joanna and I had a glass of wine, talked for a few minutes and then took a walk to B&H Camera store, if you haven't been there you have no idea what you're missing, they must do 1-3 million dollars a day in business. We had also walked through a street flea market, it was interesting and when I was up there before I went with my wife. As I was looking for my friend who was looking at other booths a gentleman came up to me and asked if I wouldn't mind him taking my picture. Of course Louise loves attention and to model so he took a picture and gave me his card so I could email for it, but Louise is a step ahead (usually) and gave him one of mine. About 2 hours later as we were going to the theater my phone rang and it was him, he said if I was in town for a few days he would like for me to come to his studio to model, I had to decline his invitation for a couple reasons, first I was leaving after the play and I pretty much know what he would have wanted for a gratuity for his service and I'm just not about that.
I got to my son's home about 10 PM and after loading the car we got home about 2 AM, we took about a 1 hour nap at a rest stop.
Wednesday, October 08, 2008
Catching up on interesting things
Without knowing me personally it's very hard to feel and know what my feelings are when I'm Louise. If you read some of my Blog posts you'll notice I sometimes mention how poorly I had always been treated as Lou.
A couple weeks ago I went to a street fair in Margate, NJ where my business was, I met a bunch of my old customers and surprisingly they had asked me about Louise, they always gave me a hard time as Lou. I met a lady who my wife knew from a store close to hers and gave her my card thinking she knew me, but she didn't. I felt I had to show her Louise in person, so a few days later I walked into her store as Louise. She just melted and mentioned a few times that I looked exactly like a woman and would have never known if I hadn't shown my picture to her before.
That same day I had my photography club meeting in Cherry Hill, NJ but also my insurance agent wanted to meet me for dinner and discuss a new policy, yes, I went as Louise. He had seen me once before a few years ago dressed, but this time he said (as I sat across from him in the booth) I don't know if I should hit on you or sell you insurance. This guy is an "Insurance Salesman" they have no sense of humor so I really considered that a compliment. I mentioned I would like to meet his wife (they live 5 miles away from the restaurant) so he took me to his home. The main reason was because he has mentioned Louise to her and she commented a few times I had to be gay. I was prepared to meet a hostile person who was going to great me with an attitude, As I walked in, she was standing far back from the front door, about 15 ft as I expected, she took one look at me and almost ran to hug me and draged me into her kitchen, she couldn't do enough for me, wine, cheese and so on. We had a great conversation and I know she formed an entirely different opinion of what being a "cross dresser" may be.
The next place was my camera club meeting, I got there about 45 Min's late. Unfortunately one of the members who I really consider very formidable in his skills and knowledge as a photographer and the biggest and strongest person there who happens to be of a different race whom I'm sure would have had objections if he was treated with prejudice had to make a rude comment "don't let that lady in" I really felt that was uncalled for, I have been to about 4 previous meetings as Louise and everyone has become very accepting and comfortable with her. Anyway, after the meeting one of the members wanted my picture and I will post it here.
The final experience last week was at the Family Center I belong to, it has a health club and my wife takes a couple of classes with the person who recognized me as Louise at the Epicurean dinner we went to last month. My wife and her and some others were at a demonstration for one of the classes and I went over to the lady and said hi, she said I'm sure I know you, but you have to help me remember, what's interesting, she knew me as Louise at the dinner but had no clue at the gym until I gave her my card with a Louise picture on the front. She was ecstatic and we both laughed at the paradox.
That's it till next episode, Louise
Friday, September 12, 2008
I know I look good BUT!
I think I just received one of the more flattering comments made to my by a very nice person but unfortunately we're not compatible and I really would prefer to think of it as an expression of his admiration rather than his intent.
He is a photographer who has seen me in public venues and is definitely very straight. Like many middle aged people he is a divorced father and has custody of his children, I only mention this so it is understood he is an upstanding person and like everyone has a little baggage. With that said, anyone who is alone intimately and trying to get by in life also needs some type of affection and depending on their luck, experience and so on with women tend to develop more of a compromising outlook on life.
Well I can make a short story very long, the other night I was at an event where he was and he took a few photo's of me, he then said, you really look great and I would have love to put you over a table and to have spanked your behind, Oh Boy!!!!!
He also mentioned one of the lady's had commented to him how well I presented myself and how it seemed as if everyone accepted me and welcomed me into the group.
My feelings are, I'm still Lou inside, but people see me differently as Louise and just love my image and will go out of their way for me.
He is a photographer who has seen me in public venues and is definitely very straight. Like many middle aged people he is a divorced father and has custody of his children, I only mention this so it is understood he is an upstanding person and like everyone has a little baggage. With that said, anyone who is alone intimately and trying to get by in life also needs some type of affection and depending on their luck, experience and so on with women tend to develop more of a compromising outlook on life.
Well I can make a short story very long, the other night I was at an event where he was and he took a few photo's of me, he then said, you really look great and I would have love to put you over a table and to have spanked your behind, Oh Boy!!!!!
He also mentioned one of the lady's had commented to him how well I presented myself and how it seemed as if everyone accepted me and welcomed me into the group.
My feelings are, I'm still Lou inside, but people see me differently as Louise and just love my image and will go out of their way for me.
Tuesday, September 09, 2008
09/08/08 epicurean society
I belong to the Epicurean Society as "Louise" and that is how my membership card is made out to.
The way I got involved is I had gone to a food show and the photographer there does "food" events and asked if I was interested in going to one of the events, how could Louise pass up an invitation.
As we were walking past the windows of the restaurant, my wife mentioned that everyone was staring at me, I was dressed in a VERY form fitting black dress with a flowered print short top on, the dress really showed my ASSets.
One of the couples we have met at other events sat with us, and as I was getting another glass of wine a lady walks up to me and says, did you go to Atlantic City High, I said yes, she said I was your history teacher. I was absolutely taken by surprise, I know I wasn't her best student. I asked how she recognized me, it was because of the big news paper article they had on me a few years ago and she saw my name tag. She just loved my image and was very kind.
I have to admit, for some reason, even some of my old business customers who I had conflicts with and if the could they would have tried to physically harm me, are always attracted to Louise and treat me with total dignity. My wife was very impressed.
The way I got involved is I had gone to a food show and the photographer there does "food" events and asked if I was interested in going to one of the events, how could Louise pass up an invitation.
As we were walking past the windows of the restaurant, my wife mentioned that everyone was staring at me, I was dressed in a VERY form fitting black dress with a flowered print short top on, the dress really showed my ASSets.
One of the couples we have met at other events sat with us, and as I was getting another glass of wine a lady walks up to me and says, did you go to Atlantic City High, I said yes, she said I was your history teacher. I was absolutely taken by surprise, I know I wasn't her best student. I asked how she recognized me, it was because of the big news paper article they had on me a few years ago and she saw my name tag. She just loved my image and was very kind.
I have to admit, for some reason, even some of my old business customers who I had conflicts with and if the could they would have tried to physically harm me, are always attracted to Louise and treat me with total dignity. My wife was very impressed.
09 05 08 Friday with my arobics classmates
Friday I was informed one of the instructors was also a singer at a lounge I have frequented. Most of my aerobics classmates know of "Louise" but haven't had the opportunity to meet her in person, I felt this was an opportune time.
I was only apprehensive of the singing instructor because I didn't want to conflict with her performance and also she seems to be very intense when I've talked with her and I'm not one of her most popular acquaintances.
So in I come and one of the first groups I bump into is a woman who's brother is a friend of mine, she had met Louise once before and she introduced me to the other 3 older lady's at her table. Just to interject, one of the experiences I have come across is that if you are introduced by a person who others respect you're a (shoe) in.
As I checked out the rest of the people at the bar and started to talk with a couple other lady's and again was introduced to a couple others. Surprisingly the singing fitness trainer was very complimentary and liked my outfit, she had a gown on and I mentioned I wanted to try it on, I finally got a laugh out of her.
I wanted to go to another restaurant/lounge so I was saying good night when one of the lady's who just met me started to say,
"I was told your a cross dresser and if I had to pick out a cross dresser in this group, it would not have been you".
What a compliment, I never pretend I pass, especially by the way I walk and talk, I've tried to soften my walk but I remain stiff somewhat like James Cagney who was a dancer but was also so stiff when he walked or danced, it's just a trait I can't change, my voice in some situations for some reason does work and many times if I'm sitting people won't realize I'm a male when talking with me. She also mentioned she was from London and was a physiologist and when she worked for a hospital, they used to strap cross dressers down to a metal box spring dressed and electrically shock them to try to get them to think differently. She asked if she could contact me about the subject, so I gave her my card and we'll see how interested she is.
I was only apprehensive of the singing instructor because I didn't want to conflict with her performance and also she seems to be very intense when I've talked with her and I'm not one of her most popular acquaintances.
So in I come and one of the first groups I bump into is a woman who's brother is a friend of mine, she had met Louise once before and she introduced me to the other 3 older lady's at her table. Just to interject, one of the experiences I have come across is that if you are introduced by a person who others respect you're a (shoe) in.
As I checked out the rest of the people at the bar and started to talk with a couple other lady's and again was introduced to a couple others. Surprisingly the singing fitness trainer was very complimentary and liked my outfit, she had a gown on and I mentioned I wanted to try it on, I finally got a laugh out of her.
I wanted to go to another restaurant/lounge so I was saying good night when one of the lady's who just met me started to say,
"I was told your a cross dresser and if I had to pick out a cross dresser in this group, it would not have been you".
What a compliment, I never pretend I pass, especially by the way I walk and talk, I've tried to soften my walk but I remain stiff somewhat like James Cagney who was a dancer but was also so stiff when he walked or danced, it's just a trait I can't change, my voice in some situations for some reason does work and many times if I'm sitting people won't realize I'm a male when talking with me. She also mentioned she was from London and was a physiologist and when she worked for a hospital, they used to strap cross dressers down to a metal box spring dressed and electrically shock them to try to get them to think differently. She asked if she could contact me about the subject, so I gave her my card and we'll see how interested she is.
Monday, August 25, 2008
I'm Popular
Yesterday I did photography for my bike club group, the one that accepts me as Louise and Lou. As I was getting my camera there was an older couple parked next to me and the gentleman saw my camera and commented about it and asked if I was a photographer, my answer was I make a better model, I'm not a Kodak moment as Lou, they laughed. I said well you know a picture is worth a 1000 words, I got one of my business cards out (now remember, these people are old, 75+ and we're in a county park about 30 miles from my home area) she looked at the picture on the front and then my name on the back and threw her arms up and said "my best friend sees you in Somers Point and always tells me how nice you are, I can't believe I met you as you, wait till I tell her" she raved about me, her husband was just as impressed. I went back to Millie (my wife) who was sitting at the picnic bench and told her the in counter I just had, she rolled her eye's before I could finish saying you didn't show your picture, and after I finished the story she was as surprised as I was.
And people wonder why I love to Cross Dress and share it.
And people wonder why I love to Cross Dress and share it.
Saturday night 08 23 08
Just a quick update. I went with my wife (Millie) to the Crab Trap Saturday night, it's usually a different group of people than on Friday nights. I like walking and working the bar so to speak, if I catch some one's eye it gives me a chance to introduce myself.
I was surprised at how many people feel comfortable with me, anyway, a woman comes up to me and asks if I graduated Atlantic High at a curtain year, I said yes, we were classmates. What's interesting is this person (very nice BTW) never talked to me in school, maybe I should have been Louise when in High School.
I was surprised at how many people feel comfortable with me, anyway, a woman comes up to me and asks if I graduated Atlantic High at a curtain year, I said yes, we were classmates. What's interesting is this person (very nice BTW) never talked to me in school, maybe I should have been Louise when in High School.
Sunday, August 17, 2008
I intimidated a police Captian
Friday nights I go out to a couple local "traditional" lounges as Louise. I must meet or be introduced to 50 new people a night, I lose tract and rarely remember a name or profession.
This past Friday I was in Somers Point at an upscale restaurant that has a nice dance band. I was "working the bar" just to talk, when a person who has met me before said, let me introduce you to some friends of mine. It was a gentleman with his wife and sister in law, we talked for a few minuets and finally he told me that they had seen me for a couple years at different lounges and were always afraid to talk with me. It turned out that he was a just retired police Captain from the Camden Police department, when I last checked, I think Camden was one of the top ten city's in the nation for the higest crime rate, I didn't think I was that scary, maybe I better check my mirror again?
Anyway, we talked a couple hours and he wants me to arm wrestle a friend of his because his friend embarrasses him where ever he goes because he challenges everyone to arm wrestle, I don't think I'm that tough, but it would be a hoot if I did beat this person, being a mature, 5'3 tall guy in a dress.
This past Friday I was in Somers Point at an upscale restaurant that has a nice dance band. I was "working the bar" just to talk, when a person who has met me before said, let me introduce you to some friends of mine. It was a gentleman with his wife and sister in law, we talked for a few minuets and finally he told me that they had seen me for a couple years at different lounges and were always afraid to talk with me. It turned out that he was a just retired police Captain from the Camden Police department, when I last checked, I think Camden was one of the top ten city's in the nation for the higest crime rate, I didn't think I was that scary, maybe I better check my mirror again?
Anyway, we talked a couple hours and he wants me to arm wrestle a friend of his because his friend embarrasses him where ever he goes because he challenges everyone to arm wrestle, I don't think I'm that tough, but it would be a hoot if I did beat this person, being a mature, 5'3 tall guy in a dress.
Follow up A first,I did it
Well, the young person called me again and begged me to please bail him out, apparently all the "friends" and choices he has made in his adult life have been the wrong one's. I had tried to express to him when we first met that it would be beneficial that he take a different path and that the people he had aligned himself with were not looking out for his benefit.
My thoughts again were, 300.00 bucks were not going to change my lifestyle, but could be enough to destroy him.
I called to confirm that the 1000.00 dollar judgement had been removed and was told that someone had "taken care of it" and the balance was 30.00 dollars. You can't call into these facility's so I decided to drive out with 300.00 as I was first told in case the 30 was a mistake. As I was on my way, the person called me and I explained the balance, he said it was wrong, I talked with him as I went into the facility and confirmed on the phone while talking with the receptionist, she would not clarify how the difference became so little, but I did confirm he was going to be released that night.
I had to leave, there's about a 2-3 hour processing period and it was already 7 PM, I asked about transportation for him and she said he will get a bus ticket. The next day he text ed me a message thanking me. I do have to talk with this kid and see if I can somehow impact to how important it is for him to return to possibly a trade school like the culinary institute we have here and focus on getting a job.
My whole take on this, is that it may have all been prevented if the police are allowed to show some discretion and sympathy for certain situations, I don't know the real story here, but I can see lots of contributory negligence on all sides especially from the powers to be.
(1) why would a person be charged with a crime if they are trying to prevent one.
(2) how can a 1300.00 bail amount be dropped to 30.00 dollars, if that was all the judgement
was the crime had to be very minor, why lock someone up for 2 days.
(3) I did ask if that was a 10% amount that is usually posted but was told that was the TOTAL amount.
(4) I spoke with a social worker and asked if she would at least pass my phone number to him so I could explain what had happened and that I did try to help him out the day before, but it was never delivered.
(5) Something is broke here, I now really have major concerns that the general public is at the mercy of a policed state and little by little due to creeping controls we are losing all of our liberty's as we had known them. The police are afraid to error on the side of rational and tend to over react to many situations.
I have absolutely no knowledge of law, but unless you're financially capable to afford the best, and let me tell you, you will pay through the nose for it, you are going to be intimidated beyond belief and will lose everything you hold dear including your liberty.
My thoughts again were, 300.00 bucks were not going to change my lifestyle, but could be enough to destroy him.
I called to confirm that the 1000.00 dollar judgement had been removed and was told that someone had "taken care of it" and the balance was 30.00 dollars. You can't call into these facility's so I decided to drive out with 300.00 as I was first told in case the 30 was a mistake. As I was on my way, the person called me and I explained the balance, he said it was wrong, I talked with him as I went into the facility and confirmed on the phone while talking with the receptionist, she would not clarify how the difference became so little, but I did confirm he was going to be released that night.
I had to leave, there's about a 2-3 hour processing period and it was already 7 PM, I asked about transportation for him and she said he will get a bus ticket. The next day he text ed me a message thanking me. I do have to talk with this kid and see if I can somehow impact to how important it is for him to return to possibly a trade school like the culinary institute we have here and focus on getting a job.
My whole take on this, is that it may have all been prevented if the police are allowed to show some discretion and sympathy for certain situations, I don't know the real story here, but I can see lots of contributory negligence on all sides especially from the powers to be.
(1) why would a person be charged with a crime if they are trying to prevent one.
(2) how can a 1300.00 bail amount be dropped to 30.00 dollars, if that was all the judgement
was the crime had to be very minor, why lock someone up for 2 days.
(3) I did ask if that was a 10% amount that is usually posted but was told that was the TOTAL amount.
(4) I spoke with a social worker and asked if she would at least pass my phone number to him so I could explain what had happened and that I did try to help him out the day before, but it was never delivered.
(5) Something is broke here, I now really have major concerns that the general public is at the mercy of a policed state and little by little due to creeping controls we are losing all of our liberty's as we had known them. The police are afraid to error on the side of rational and tend to over react to many situations.
I have absolutely no knowledge of law, but unless you're financially capable to afford the best, and let me tell you, you will pay through the nose for it, you are going to be intimidated beyond belief and will lose everything you hold dear including your liberty.
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