I Haven't been out in my local area for a few months, it's been cold, windy, rainy and I felt self concuss after putting on about 10+ lbs, us girls are always figure concuss.
So after a couple month hiatus I asked my wife if she would like to do dinner at one of our favorite restaurants, I also had a new outfit I wanted to wear so that gave me a little incentive.
As we walked in, I was greeted by an acquittance who was the former CEO of SJI, he had met me from going to the proxy meetings and we became friendly, a real gentleman, you can tell a person of class when they are in an important position and can be affected by the company they associate with but chose to risk their creditability by associating with deserve people over the small critical minds of judgmental people, I put him on my HERO list. He also introduced me to all his friends that were with him.
As we ate two other couples came in separately who also know us and made a point of coming over to our table to say hi and ask how Millie (my wife) was feeling, rumors had circulated about her health and people seemed very concerned.
After dinner I took my wife home and went back out to a local dance lounge. Again many of the people who know me asked why they hadn't seen me for awhile, but anyone who knows how much effort it takes to do makeup and look right can understand that it does take time and effort besides all the other conditions that go along with Cross-Dressing. I don't want to spend time getting ready and not have an audience (I know I sound self centered) to admire all my effort.
I like to "cruse" the bar area where they're always people who know me and might be with a new friend who they introduce me to. That happened last night a couple times, but this one person was a hoot.
He looked like a very Catholic Irishman, rigid in their philosophy about anyone how doesn't fit the norm. He was sitting with a lady who introduced me to him, so I thought they were together, what do I know, when I first went out 20 years ago, I used to think every couple was married until my wife clued me into these lounges were "meat markets", I had never heard the term before that.
We shake hands and I do have a reasonably firm grip, he asks "are you a man", I replied, you felt my grip, he said, I've been to Tia land and have seen many TS/CD's but they're all tall and when the approach me I tell them to go and play basketball.
We talked a few minuets about the usual concerns, if I was gay, into men and so on, I was very honest and tried to describe the differences with the CD lifestyle, I think he became very comfortable with me, enough to say, "I have to tell you, you look damn good" and with that he reaches behind me as he kisses me on the cheek and says I really like you and gives my butt a squeeze. I was really taken back, I thought he was going to be offensive.
I guess people treat you the way they see you.
1 comment:
I may have mentioned this before but you are a hero to me.
I also may have opined that the reason that Louise attracts so many people when she is out and about is that people are attracted to bravery and courage. Whether they have any latent CD inclinations or not most people will see you as someone who has the guts to go against the norms by dressing as you do in a classy and dignified manner. You make no excuses for your attire and you also do not pretend to be anything that you are not. People are drawn to courage, dignity, candor and compassion and these are the traits that come out strongly when you are out and about as Louise.
Pat
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