Occasionally other CD's find me on the internet and ask if I would help them with makeup and going out. Of course many also may have ulterior motives and I have to honestly say I call my self open minded but I have to consider my age and some of the "Unique" people you might meet, trust me when I say It's Not a "Kodak Moment" in fact I have begged off by saying we're to busy or not interested. We haven't helped anyone in a good 5-6 years.
So after messaging back and forth for about a month and a few phone conversations I agreed to meet someone and see if we could help him. He was age appropriate (45) divorced, 2 kids and had a job and communicated well.
We were supposed to meet earlier in the day, but due to his work schedule we met around 5:30 PM. He seemed OK until he got out of his car and I noticed he was having some difficulty walking, I just arbitrated to his boots.
I brought him to my home and had him go upstairs, my wife came home moments later and I told her earlier we were having company but she's usually exhausted after work and just went to sleep.
I went to the room where the new CD was and noticed he had patterned hose on and because it was late we go out for Karaoke I told him we could take him with us, but he would need to dress for the venue. I had to give him a pair of jeans, lent him one of my wigs and also did hie makeup, he looked pretty fair. But the big problem was, he has a form of Muscular dystrophy, this was a difficult situation.
For him to walk (he had leg braces) he had to swing his hips and throw his legs forward, his hands were also in a semi clenched position.
I was pretty surprised he accepted going "out" for his VERY first time, but he seemed to trust us. When we got the the restaurant it was fairly busy, everyone knows us and most are very friendly, some people we avoid. The people who greeted me also were polite to our guest.
One of our married friends who after 7 years or so, just finally abut a year ago became comfortable with me, he came over and sat next to our guest to help him feel comfortable and started a conversation, VERY admirable.
Our guest had an 1 1/2 drive back home so he left early. It was pretty much a mile marker for both people, the CD being out for the first time, our meeting someone with a major disability who CD's (it's VERY difficult for him) and our friend who was scare of me for years and now is VERY comfortable.
I have to post the messages my friend had with me this morning, impressive.
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Louise
You, your CD friend and your friend Steve all seem to have reached positive milestones. It is interesting that if often takes folks some time to reach a level of comfort with a CD. Those of us who CD do have a feel for others who are similarly situated but for those civilians who have never had the CD urge it must seem odd to interact with us.
In my other post I mentioned that last night I got up and out for the first time in over 3 months. The bar had changed ownership but was still LGBT friendly and some of the old crowd that know me were there and I was warmly greated. It has a cheers like atmosphere where almost everybody knows your name.
I do hope that some day I can get down to AC and we can hit the town.
Pat
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