05/26/08 Sofia's

Saturday night I went out with my wife, Millie, I of course was Louise. We have been going to an upscale restaurant/lounge called Sofia's.

I had to find a parking spot so Millie got 2 seats at the bar. I came in a few minuets later and before I could sit down Sofia came over to great me, I barely had time to say hello to her when a gentleman about 50 or so introduced himself to me and asked if we had met before. I meet so many people I couldn't remember, but he said "I want to buy you a drink and come over to our table". I went over and it was a birthday for his 29 YO daughter, he introduced me to about 10 people there and it turns out he's a (get this) brain surgeon. All I know is he had me in a bear hug and was grabbing my butt and was making some comments I'm curtain if he's patients had heard they wouldn't allow him to operate on them. He was somewhat crude, but fun for that level of profession, I'm sure he's under a lot of stress and when someone like me can allow him to let loose he does. We exchanged business cards so I know he's real, he said he would contact me for any party's he may have (time will tell) I always am skeptical when people are overly gregarious towards me.

A night at a Red Neck bar

A couple weeks ago I wanted to go to a bar where a friend of mine hosts Karaoke. I had never been there before and my wife and I looked around for about 30 minuets in the area before we found it.

Brigantine never impressed me as being a "Red Neck" community, I thought because it was somewhat exclusive and expensive to live there most people would be sophisticated and the bar would be more upscale. Did I get a shock, what a dump.

As we walked in they're were people I knew who also liked Mike the karaoke guy and they asked us to sit with them. They had a friend from work with them and I've known these people just on a casual level but it goes to show you, you can't tell a book from it's cover, they are all air traffic controllers at the Tech Center near Atlantic City.

The friend of the couple looked familiar, I probably saw him at one of the other places I go to. My wife sat near him and I could tell he was fairly uncomfortable with my presence. The rest of the people at the bar were a rough looking crowd also.

One of my compulsions is I just need to walk around and push myself on others, if I see them looking at me. I'm not rude at all, but I know they want to talk with me so I need to present myself in a way that allows them to communicate. My opening comment may vary depending on how I think the people may react, I may say, Hi, I'm Louise and offer my hand, or, I may say, do we know each other, so that I can get a statement back like "No" and I will say would you like to? That usually brings a few laughs and breaks the ice.

As I was roaming around, I guess the guy where my wife was, started to question her about me and our relationship, by the time I got back he was a lot more comfortable. I bumped into one couple I knew, I went to school with the guy and another one who was gay, but not out.

The night was fun and when we were ready to leave I wanted to say good night to one lady I spoke with, as I said good night there were 3 really rough looking guys next to her, one grabbed me and said, my buddy wants his picture with you, turned out they were very friendly, I would have had fun with them but it was time to go. Oh he did a picture with his phone and had to break his buddies' chops by saying it was being posted on the net.

My spin Instructress

My wife and I have been going to an upscale restaurant lounge in Margate. I belong to a Community Center health club where I do spin and aerobics. My spin instructor is engaged to an old customer of mines son, they came to the lounge to see me as Louise. They were quite impressed or at least seemed to be.

Bewildered in a good way

I have to break up the last few weeks into different posts or else no one will read any of it.

My wife and I as Louise went to another Epicurean Society banquet ( I joined as a member). To my surprise everyone, even some of the purveyors who were displaying some items for chefs were very polite to me.

As we walked in I noticed a person I thought was an ex customer of mine, he was seated or else I would have known it wasn't him. Being polite I said hello and asked how he was, he was very polite and said I'm not that person. He then showed me his name tag and he was the Dean of the Atlantic Community Collage, I was a little embarrassed but he was a gentleman towards me and said it was nice to meet me.

Another acquaintance was there whom I know from the club my wife used to work at, this lady writes an article for the society and her husband just retired as a State Trooper.

Dinner was fair and I don't like to over eat as Louise anyway. My photographer friend was there and he was kind enough to photo me a few times.

As we were getting ready to leave, I wanted to introduce my wife (Millie) to the main Chef and said, Chef Jeff, this is my wife, he looked and said "I'm confused" I don't really know what he meant, either he always thought I was a female or I was gay and not married, I'm not sure, but I'll have to ask next time.

How funny

Oh my god..I have been meaning to write you back or call you...I DID have a conversation with both Kathy AND Erwin..seperately.. It was soooo funny.. You may have scarred Erwin for life! Kathy called me after you and I had spoken last and asked me if I remembered you..I told her that you and I have been put together, randomly, during one of my golf outings to the Seaview Marriot course. Since I usually play alone, I told her they pair me up with other people. So, I said that you and your buddies were out there, and I just got paired up with the three of you. I told her that in our conversations throughout the day, that you mentioned you used to own a gas station, and I had told you that I was in the Underground tank business here at DEP. I told her, that I gave you my # and if you ever wanted to golf again, or needed help with any DEP issues, to give me a call, and that was the last I heard of you until 2007, when you called about your old site issues.. She said "is that all??" I said, yes, "why?" She said, he didnt mention any "alter egos?" I said, "Kathy, what the hell are you talking about?" then she started to laugh and state that she and Erwin had gone to the site to meet you and your consultant, or the other RP's consultant or whatever. She said, "well, we got there and there was this well dressed lady there with the consultant, so I went over to them and introduced myself, and new right away, something was amiss..or a Miss...no pun intended!".. She said that she introduced herself, but then said something, like, she didnt get your name?? and you said.."Lou Tate!" She said she knew right away that you were a man, but wasnt sure if Erwin realized it right away, until you said you were Lou Tate!.. To your Credit..she said that if it werent for your larger hands, she would have thought you were just a well dressed older Jewish woman!! (Is that the look you were going for that day?? lol??!) Kathy, of course, wanting to be professional about the whole thing, said to herself, "well, no big deal, lets just move on!" She said she kept looking at Erwin, and he just looked really dazed and confused..I guess they had a big laugh in the car on the way home, as that may have been a first in DEP history.... to meet on site, with a crossdresser! See Louise..you gave the DEP something to talk about for years! Of course she kept grilling me, and asking if I was into that sort of thing as well! So, I did my best "Deny, deny, deny" approach. Then, I was downstairs having a soda on break, and saw Erwin come into the cafeteria. I called him over and asked how things were going. in his typical stoic self, he said, "fine" and sat down.. I asked him how his cases were going, and tried to make small talk, but he acted like he knew that I knew something!? So, I asked him, "if he had an interesting meeting last week?" then he started to smile and asked what I meant.. Then, I said, "you met an acquiantance of mine?" then he just smiled and got all red!... He said "let me ask you, Has that ever happened to anyone else in the history of DEP?" I then started to laugh, and said," not that I know of, you are the first case manager that I know that has met a CD on site!" He just said "why me??!" I said, whats the big deal? He had no answer, as of course, it's NOT a big deal really. But he was just beside himself. I asked if he knew what was up when he got on site, and I asked him how you were dressed...he said, you had your nails done, jewelry, nice clothes..heels..but the hands gave it away!..lol.. Maybe you need gloves next time!? lol...He did say you were dressed very nice...I didnt want to say, that " I know, she always dresses nice!" as that would definitely give me away. I think you shocked the poor guy for life. He'll never have another meeting on any other site with any other RP and NOT think of his meeting with you. I kinda wish I had been there..I asked if he had the DEP camera with him, and he said he didnt, but wishes he did, because no one would have believed it!...(actually, you might have even posed for a nice pic, knowing you!).. anyway...I am sorry I didnt get back to you sooner, I have been swamped at work, and also, have not had much fun as Tonya lately. I did go on line and do a makeover! here are some pics..which styles/colors do you like the best? How do you like me in glasses?! lol...Actually, I think they are sexy in a librarian sort of way! I like the red curly hair...I think that looks cute on me..anyway..I WILL get down there to see you..I promise. I dont have that many OTHER friends...I promise you...Love ya..Ton.