After a year, I am going to try to begin posting again

A very difficult year

 It was necessary to take a hiatus due to an unexpected medical condition my wife was diagnosed with, it was very serous and diagnosed during an emergency visit to the hospital at 2AM on a Sunday morning, my wife never gets sick during normal hours.

There is another situation that also occurs due to so many emergency situations that tend to crop up spontaneously which caused me to have developed what I have labeled "The Chicken Little Syndrome" (if you recall he claimed the sky was falling so often that when something really dangerous occurred, no one took him seriously) I felt guilty for being insensitive to the seriousness of this episode.

After a year of traveling to one of the major Cancer centers in Philadelphia (I'll leave nameless) and then a failed surgery for what we were told a routine "Port" implantation which became septic and needed to be removed and then hospitalized a full month and put on high doses of Antibiotics 24/7 the first week and then daily afterwards, which all delayed her much needed Chemotherapy, it's a wonder she is now in remission, they don't use the word "cured".

My wife is a wonderful person even though I think the person who writes "The Lockhorns" must get his material from a hidden camera in our home, anytime you want to know what's going on in our household just read that comic strip. We do banter and fight from morning to night and it can be anything from her over feeding the dogs to not sweeping the floor and never paying bills on time, it's endless.

In the mean time I will try to post some of my experiences when out in public and some of the antics, conversations and how I deal with anything when dressed en-fem.

If you're interested in contacting me direct for something personal you want to know about (NO SEXUAL QUESTIONS) I will do my best to answer in a reasonable and logical way, it may not be what you want to hear but it's what has worked for me.

My direct contact is "cutelouise1@aol.com"

I remain "Louise"

     

An example of "Louise" compared to to 2 nice ladies who are "Drag Queens" 

(I'm wearing heels to make me taller) 

A Tortured Soul

A Tortured Soul

 

I have no other way to express what this person must have been experiencing, but he chose to share his secret with me after reading the article that was in the local press, way back in 2003 when I decided to share my "Alter Ego" with the world.

 

I had been out but mostly in a Gay club my wife had taken me too a few years before, (not that we're Gay, but where else would you go) although I had wanted to share "Louise" with everyone because I was much happier with my presentation in that form and it seemed the people who met her preferred "Louise" over Lou also, so it was a natural next step.

 

Once I went public it created some unexpected results, especially considering I was pretty much labeled a "Little Prick"  meaning I was nasty and ridged in my thoughts and the way I did business, I still am for the most part, but it put me at a tremendous risk.

 

One of the unexpected results were that a few men who would be considered "Closet CD's" found a medium in me that they felt the could trust and share their Cross-dressing fetish with and I guess hopefully lean how to do makeup and advance themselves out of the closet.

 

Ten to fifteen years ago PC's were still somewhat new to the average person so a little writting and the phone book were a way of finding an address and corresponding and it usually meant the person was very sincere because they had to put effort into contacting another person.

 

So without further comments, I'll share one persons letters to me, he died in 2014, I never contacted him for fear of causing an issue, he was in a nursing home suffering from I think dementia as you'll notice from his hand written letters.

 

 



Still around just busy

A Major Move

My wife and I moved the Monday before Thanks Giving, since then we've been busy moving all our stuff into the new home.

 

Once I get settled in I plan on having a "Huge" sale which I will title as 

 

"Louise's Treasure Trove Closet Sale"

 

For now  I want to wish everyone a Healthy and Wealthy New Year and hopefully for those near my location you might visit to pick out some new outfits. 

Another Surprising Comment

It's all in How you Act

Most Fridays I've been going to an upper scale restaurant/Lounge in the Margate area. Since I had my businesses there I usually run into past customers who are more kind to me as Louise than they ever were when I was Lou.

I happened to be sitting at the Bar when one of my past Lady customers came over to sit, her Father and 5 Uncles were all Professional basket ball players. One Uncle had owned a Bar/restaurant on the next block from me and her Father owned a smaller place one block up from me so I was convenient for service.

As I was talking with her, she was a little skeptical about my reasons for Cross-dressing even though she's known about it for 20 years we had never discussed the condition because we were never in a social setting.

More to the point. As I'm talking with her a gentleman who I've known for quite awhile from the old "Bubba Mac" days (a closed lounge) came over and said he wanted me to meet friends of his. I'm not so obtuse not to know that usually people want to introduce me as a Novelty, after all I do dress to be noticed and I've never admitted to "passing" but I am polite, presentable and respectable.

I walked over with him and he introduces me to an older couple and asks me to guess what type car he drives, the guy who knows me has a car fetish (I guess) and enjoys High priced cars, he drives a MB, I consider over priced and over engineered. I've never liked European cars other than look at them.

So I said to the new person "I guess you drive a MB too" he said no, I own a Rolls Royce and a Maserati, this is my 24th RR. I'm impressed and mentioned I had always wanted a Bentley (used) but was concerned about the maintenance, he said he pays $24,000 a year to maintain his RR. We got into a nice conversation and I mentioned I used to service two for one of my customers, after all it is Margate and if you're only worth 15-20 Million you're on the Lower scale. He sad he wanted a convertible RR and since they didn't have one available he bought a RR Coupe and had it converted to a convertible, that's BIG money.

We talked a good 45 minuets and he finally says in a fairly commanding voice "I don't get this Cross-Dressing stuff, I never even saw anyone like you before, But you're one of the nicest people I've had the pleasure to speak with and I like you" and with that he bought me a glass of wine.

This person has money, I really don't know his background, he made money in Internet Merchandising so I don't know if he was higher educated, but he was the type person who didn't need to be polite if he wasn't comfortable, he could have insulted me and there would be nothing I could have done or said, I was very venerable, but my nature is to be respectful of everyone and I think that allows people to treat me in kind, or maybe he thought I was mentally ill and took pity on me, but I don't need to be in a dress to be called nuts.

My wife and the Trans Girl

Over the last 10 years or so I have run into "Brandy" when Thrift Shopping. She is a VERY attractive Asian TG/TS (I don't know exactly which) but no matter I know she was a guy and now is, WOW, what a looker. I could only dream to be built like her and have that long black hair an Asian woman has. She's about my height, 5'2" tall and at best 125#.

I have mentioned her to my wife often and even though my wife has met almost as many TS's as I have, none come close to Brandy. 

Yesterday, Sunday 7/24/16 we did our usual breakfast and then had to pick up some things at the ACME. My wife had wanted me to drop her off to food shop and I would stop just across the parking lot at the Thrift Shop, but I convinced her to come in and do a quick look.

I looked towards the back of the store and there was Brandy. She's usually a little stand offish towards me, but about a month ago (after 10 years) we finally talked a little and shared some pictures on our cell phones, so I felt a little braver and decided to interrupt her shopping and introduce her to my wife.

I was a little aprehensive because my wife can be jealous (she knows what I'm attracted to) and since Brandy and I are really not to close, I was a little concerned a "cat fight" might break out. I left them alone to talk for a couple minuets.

I was in the other room of the store and Brandy came in and said, I really liked meeting your wife, she is a great lady and very understanding, most women would never accept their husbands as a cross-dresser.

When we left the store I asked Millie her impression, she rarely makes an very expressive gesture, she shook her head and said, whew she is really quite a person and impossible to tell.

 

I have a lot of issues with most CD's who claim their TG/TS or any other term, but as far as Brandy goes, I can really understand her reasons, she has it all together.

Another Thrift Shp Encounter

Wednesday is "Family Day" at the Salvation Army thrift shop (half price day).

I was in the check out line and a Lady was folding her "finds very neatly and putting the hangers in order and hanging them on the empty's rack.

I had to ask if she was available for house work, because I could really use a "Neat Freak". She laughed and said she was a Liberian at a Trade School.

We got to talking and she noticed my nails (always done in Silver) and my women's clothing selections, so I shared my picture (as usual) with her.

She said I'm also the director of a newly formed GBLT group for the students and asked if I would be interested in coming sometime in the next school year to discuss "cross-dressing".

A copy of her email to me.

"Lou/Louise-

Thanks so much for connecting with me.  It was a delight meeting you, and in such a serendipitous way! 

I hope we can connect this coming year and will certainly reach out to you via telephone, once I am settled into the school year.  Please understand, from my end, this is our first year (we are starting in October) and the group is student-run, with me as the Advisor.  My thoughts right now are to have a small panel of people (you included) who  can speak to different viewpoints, ways of living, etc.  And of course, sharing experiences to further educate all of us.  

There is a world of opportunities with this new group - fun, social, educational - and I do want to include you.  I will be in touch.  Thanks again Lou/Louise.

---Amy"

A collection of last months interesting encounters

A few weeks ago I went to a new venue for me in Drab (not as Louise) with my wife and a couple friends.

I enjoy "working" the crowd, meeting and talking with people. A few people recognized me even thought I was dressed as a guy. Three men at the Cabana Bar started talking with me and one guy became very inquisitive but polite attempting to figure out the whole "Louise" thing, no doubt I'll run into him again.

The next (interesting) person was a fairly large guy with a waist length blond  Pony Tail. We started talking and it turned out he was a "Bounty Hunter" like "Dog" on TV and about the same size but much better looking than Dog, he's a scary guy.

This guy was an ex-cop and now works for a Task Force Department teaching cops Krav Maga. I shared my picture of "Louise" and he said let me show you a couple moves because you're a small person and might need to defend yourself. I thought that was quite nice of him.

The next interesting item was a few weeks ago one of our friends (also a cross-dresser) had a slight confrontation with a (so called) self proclaimed Minister who obviously was testing his moral strength by seeing how much he could drink before he came over to insult our friend.

Without going into details, he was banned from the lounge. I thanked the Lady manager and she said I love you guys. But then she said, my uncle was also a Cross-Dresser and I loved him, he was so pretty and nice when he dressed up, so I respect and understand you guys too. 

You never know what you’ll find

To preface this post and title, I was shopping at my local Salvation Army a few years ago when a lady asked if I was shopping for my wife and I answered no, I’m shopping for myself and then I showed her a picture of “Louise”Her comment was  

“You never know what you’ll find in here”. 

I suspected she was making a condescending remark and always kept a skeptical eye out when talking with her. 

This Saturday night something like that happened again, but this time it was reversed. As I was socializing at our usual Karaoke lounge a person came up and reminded me he had re-introduce an old classmate and business colleague to me the week before. We laughed about the interaction of my old acquaintance and his discomfort of seeing his, rough tough old friend in a dress and him not being able to accept it.

This person said, I have no issue with it, in fact my Brother in Law went all the way, he was a cop from a City about 60 miles North of Atlantic City, I mentioned the person’s name and he said yea, that’s my Brother in Law and brought out his cell phone with pictures from about 2 weeks ago at a family wedding.

I had met this person about 6-7 years ago on line and we met at a social setting in a Casino, my wife was with me. He was a really class person and looked great and sounded just like a woman, although he was about 6’3 tall.

We hit it off reasonably well and we invited him down again (he liked going to the casinos) so we went to dinner and he gave us both PBA cards since he was the VP of the State PBA association.

He was a nice person, but since she considered herself a woman now after SRS, I somewhat was a negative attraction. Usually TS’s distance themselves from Cross dressers as I attempt to distance myself from Drag Queens, we’re in the same grouping but have different reasons for dressing up.

Never the less I had to use the quote.

“You never know what you’ll find”

The Compliment Last Night 06/12/2016

Last night my wife and I went to out local Karaoke hangout.

As I walked in I was greeted in the usual way with many hugs and cheek kisses, they're a very open minded and accepting group.

As I made my way around to a seat my wife had for me, a tallish lady came up behind me and said, I need to thank you for our conversation last year (last year, I can't remember an hour ago). She preceded to tell me I helped her with her self image and the way she saw herself. She always felt self conscious for being tall (she was at best 6' not that tall) she was VERY attractive about late 50's age.

She said I would never dance because I felt so out of place and thanked me for helping her with her self confidence.

Talk about "Turn about"

That's when you realize you're doing the right thing in life when people seek you out and compliment you in public for being yourself and conveying that message to them to be themselves.  

The Restaurant





My wife and I go to breakfast at a local restaurant Sunday mornings, I sometimes go as Louise and the owners love the attention I receive, they feel I bring in business.


 To preface this a little, I almost dress exclusively in women's Jeggings and women's shirts with woman's sandals or Boots, I have almost NO "Lou" (male) clothes, not even underwear.


Last week as I was leaving as "Lou" (my male persona) there was a couple walking towards the door, obviously due to my mode of dressing I make an androgynous presentation, some people "get it" right away, others never give it a second thought (not many anyway).


The couple stop for a moment as I step to the side to let them enter and the man asks, "are you "Louise", I say yes that's me but you have the advantage and how did you know me.


He said we met you about 2 years ago as "Louise" at a local lounge, we talked awhile and we were very impressed with you, seeing you dressed as you are and being so "petite" (5'2) it was a good guess.

Also as my wife and I were talking to the couple, one of the waitresses came outside and said "I just wanted to tell you, your Butt looks great in those jeans".  I always wear women's (stretch) Jeggings. Hey, if they look good on a woman and I have a woman's Butt, why not?


I can't believe people would remember me after 2 years and even without me being in character, but as I often say when people tell me they met me before I use a standard quote.

                   "People say once they meet me they can't forget no matter how hard they try"

The Coin Show

 

 

Saturday 4/30/16 I went to the Coin Show that was at a local Church activity's hall next door to the church.

I really have little knowledge of Numismatics although as a kid I did collect penny's and dimes (all I could afford) and used to collect stamps that I would order for 1 or 2 dollars from advertisements in different magazines I used to read. They would send maybe 100-200 used stamps that had been postmarked and were torn off an envelope, hey what did I know, I was around 10 years old and we didn't have TV so it gave me something to do.

Since I dress up on Saturdays I figured it would be a fun thing to do and maybe I would get a little education, well I got more than I expected.

As I walked in I was greeted by an older couple, it turned out these two people were within 1 and 2 years of my age. The lady handed me a card and asked me to fill it out with my name address and phone number (as I always mention, I don't pretend I pass, so I try to ease the introduction with something humors) I looked at her and asked, you're not going to use this to ask me for a date are you, with that the older gentleman said, well you're pretty enough. I was happy they took my joking comment in stride and I replied, I don't look to bad for being "--" (my age). They both gasped for air and said you're not even close to that and said that's our age, I proved it to them and they were astounded, they questioned how I stayed looking so young and I could only say, I'm happy now.

As I walked into the main hall I glanced around, possibly it was busier earlier but I saw about 40-50 vendor tables and about the same in people who were either seated or standing discussing potential purchases or sales (they were doing both at the show).

I started to check out coins on one side of the isle and then walked to the other side and was just pretending to be interested when the person from his table said to me "you look much better in person than your pictures on the internet.

I'll post his email he sent this morning because it details everything without me saying anything.

Good Morning Louise,

It was so nice to meet and talk with you at the Linwood Coin Show on Saturday afternoon!  I have to tell you that you are so much prettier in person than your pictures on the internet.  When you came to my table, I knew instantly who you were, but I was amazed at how perfect your hair and makeup were.  I kept trying to find some flaw in your appearance or something that would give away that you were not a GG, but there wasn't anything, that gave it away (to me anyhow).  What amazed me most, was your poise and confidence being dressed and out in a public place.  You had command of the entire room.  I wanted to ask you so many questions, but  the time and place just didn't seem right,, and I am never great thinking on my feet. 

I have been dressing myself for about 4 years now.  As I told you , I am married, my wife is 10 years older then me, and she has health issues, so she would never understand or allow me to dress.  Judging by comments that she makes when a Cross dresser is on television, I know that she would flip and throw me out of the house, if she found out about my "hobby". 

I was hoping that you would be open to me occasionally emailing you to ask you questions and tips about dressing-up.  I could not help but notice how good you looked in that little black dress yesterday.  How do you get those feminine curves???  They looked slightly exaggerated but absolutely  perfect!  Your ass was sticking out, and I am sure that you were getting lots of attention in that room yesterday.

Again, it was a pleasure to meet you yesterday.  Thank you for stopping by and chatting.

Sincerely,

bob  aka "cindy"

The Bank

I went to my bank to cash a check, as I walked up to the tellers they were all taking to one client (it wasn't busy). The guy looks at me and exclaims OMG you're beautiful (he looked around mid 80's) I figured he knew what I was and was being polite, all the tellers know me both ways and they know my wife. This person says I know you from the Sub Shop, I don't know, I must meet 20 people a day when I'm out dressed who want to talk with me. He asks if I wouldn't mind joining him for coffee at the Dunkin Donuts, I figured I haven't eaten all day (it was about 2 PM) so I said sure.

 

The tellers were laughing and one said "you really are beautiful", I said tell my wife what happened, she won't believe me.

 

I leave the Bank, he's waiting in his car and wants me to go with him, and I said NO, I'll take my car in case

I want to leave. I follow him to a different coffee shop, I think he was excited and he turned the wrong direction. As I park, he opens my door and helps me out and puts my arm in his and we walk in. I turn to sit and he's fumbling with his zipper, I said WTF, he said he just noticed it was down (Hum I wonder). So he gets 2 coffees and we start talking. He goes right into some sexual discussion asking if I'm still active, I'm ready to leave, but again I think this guy knows me and I'm now in a situation where I don't want to embarrass him or visa versa, so I tell him I'm married to a woman and I don't cheat. He looks at me and says "You're married to a woman" and then says he believes God wanted people to procreate and doesn't accept the gay lifestyle. I said I'm NOT gay, I'm a male, he looks at me and say's "you’re not a male" I said yes I am, I'm a married man and straight and I like to dress up. He says "you fooled the hell out of me". I don't think he really cared at that point, but I said I have a few things I have to do and politely thanked him for the coffee and left.

 

Louise

Costco

My Visit To Costco

I had a Costco membership for a few years, I consider it one of the better values, BJ's, in my opinion sucks and Sam's Club is pretty good, but the Costco in Manahawkin has great steaks and also the Tuna Fish and Anchovies I like.. I let me membership expire due to not really having any other reason to travel up there.

Last month I went Manahawkin for a party (after Thanks Giving leftovers) and had some time to kill, I thought I would get a "walk through pass" to Costco to see if there was anything new and a reason to renew my membership.

As I walked in by the check out station, there was an older man who has been there a couple years, he would always check out my items, but because I normally went early I was never dressed en-fem so he didn't recognize me this time as I walked by him as "Louise". He greeted me with a VERY polite welcome and smile.

I went over to the service counter and asked for a day pass and then walked back to the entrance and started to enter. There is a lady who checks the Club Card as you enter, we've had a couple conversations and I had shared my pictures with her, but she didn't recognize me until I asked if she knew who I was. It took her a couple seconds and she said OMG, you look great, I didn't even know you weren't a woman. I always love the shock value.

As I walked in I had to walk by the Optical Dept, one of the salesmen saw me coming and walked from the other side of the counter to start a conversation, he was already talking with another person but had to come over and talk with me, don't ask me why. He never said anything about my Female persona and we just had a very generic conversation.

I was interested in the Steaks and wanted to take a picture of the type I like so I could send them to a friend who has a Costco membership and would buy me Steaks when he's there and bring them down on a Saturday. Hey, I'm "parsimonious" what can I say.

So as I'm by the meat counter, I see the guy from the checkout exit and he's got a dustpan and broom sweeping imaginary dirt and staring at me (it was VERY obvious). As I would enter an isle he would be down the other end sweeping and staring. I intentionally walked by him after 4-5 isles and asked "do you have a twin at the exit" obviously I caught him off guard and he could only laugh, it was funny.

Anyway, I can make a short story long, but what the hell.

The Jehovah Witness

The Jehovah Witness

I'm sure at one time or another most of us have had a surprise visit from the "JW" as they title themselves now.

 

A couple weeks ago one early afternoon my wife and I were getting ready to go to a luncheon, I was going as Louise. My wife was coming down the stairs and called out to me that there were two JW's walking up towards our front door.

 

Since I have no reservations about Louise I felt this would be an opportune time to introduce these gentlemen to the cross-dressing lifestyle, if nothing else they might set up a prayer ceremony in front of our house or "damn" us from Heaven, in either case I'm sure the neighbors would be entertained.

I was in the kitchen as the bell rang and told Millie I'd get it. I opened the door and there was a good size fit looking late 50's Black man and a mid 40's white man at the door. They introduced themselves and I replied and shook their hands, as I took hold of the Black mans hand, which happened to be a good size, I could barely span my fingers across it I made sure I gave him a good firm grip and almost made him lose his balance because I usually pull a person towards me as I shake, needless to say he let out a grunt, the white guy was nothing, I almost squashed his hand.

Yes, I know, it's not lady like, but I intentionally do that to (metaphorically) demonstrate that just because I'm a cross-dresser doesn't mean I'm a "pussy". I also find that I can possess a more commanding stance en-fem, either people are afraid I'm "nuts" or I become more decisive (probably a combination of both).  

In any event I listened to them for couple minuets and the Caucasian guy invited me to their service (to convert me I'm sure) but told them we were late for a meeting and would consider it at another time. 

The Guest

Occasionally other CD's find me on the internet and ask if I would help them with makeup and going out. Of course many also may have ulterior motives and I have to honestly say I call my self open minded but I have to consider my age and some of the "Unique" people you might meet, trust me when I say It's Not a "Kodak Moment" in fact I have begged off by saying we're to busy or not interested. We haven't helped anyone in a good 5-6 years.

So after messaging back and forth for about a month and a few phone conversations I agreed to meet someone and see if we could help him. He was age appropriate (45) divorced, 2 kids and had a job and communicated well.

 

We were supposed to meet earlier in the day, but due to his work schedule we met around 5:30 PM. He seemed OK until he got out of his car and I noticed he was having some difficulty walking, I just arbitrated to his boots.

I brought him to my home and had him go upstairs, my wife came home moments later and I told her earlier we were having company but she's usually exhausted after work and just went to sleep.

I went to the room where the new CD was and noticed he had patterned hose on and because it was late we go out for Karaoke I told him we could take him with us, but he would need to dress for the venue. I had to give him a pair of jeans, lent him one of my wigs and also did hie makeup, he looked pretty fair. But the big problem was, he has a form of Muscular dystrophy, this was a difficult situation.

For him to walk (he had leg braces) he had to swing his hips and throw his legs forward, his hands were also in a semi clenched position. 

I was pretty surprised he accepted going "out" for his VERY first time, but he seemed to trust us. When we got the the restaurant it was fairly busy, everyone knows us and most are very friendly, some people we avoid. The people who greeted me also were polite to our guest.

One of our married friends who after 7 years or so, just finally abut a year ago became comfortable with me, he came over and sat next to our guest to help him feel comfortable and started a conversation, VERY admirable. 

Our guest had an 1 1/2 drive back home so he left early. It was pretty much a mile marker for both people, the CD being out for the first time, our meeting someone with a major disability who CD's (it's VERY difficult for him) and our friend who was scare of me for years and now is VERY comfortable.

I have to post the messages my friend had with me this morning, impressive.

20 Years ago on this Halloween "Louise" was born

Last night me wife and I went to the Brigantine Elks Lodge for the annual Halloween party. I don't really do "costume or Drag" and besides the group we went with (about 7 other couples) was supposed to be 1930's Gangster Babes.

 

The ironic circumstances are that my wife invited the ladies in our group to explore "Louise's Closet" for their gowns as none of them apparently own "UP-Scale" dressy gowns. I kept the one I wore separate; it was a long blue sequined gown with a long slit up one leg.

 

IMHO, I really didn't see a lot of creativity at this party, there were a couple interesting costumes though, one person was a "Wookiee" and was with "Princes Leia" I thought they were the best, his costume looked just like in the movie and she looked exactly like the Princes. There was another person who looked and sang exactly like Rod Stewart, these people deserved 1st Places.

 

At 11 PM we had to do a "walk" so the judges (None ever met or saw me before) could decide who to award prizes to. When we finished the walk I was in the middle of the crowd and due to being so small I tried to get near the front, just to be seen, I had no expectations because "Louise" is pretty much who I am.

 

To my total surprise I was called the first place winner for the category, I pretty much went numb, I was really taken by surprise because I just did my normal "Louise" thing except I wore a more stylish wig and the sequined gown. I guess "Louise" really does draw attention.

 

I have to add that during the evening about 10-12 women who do know me from other venues (after all I'm out 2-3 times a week for 20 years) were exceptionally attentive, one who has (I call) an Alcohol allergy who used to be VERY attractive and owns 2 restaurants on her own, was all over me, we had met about 15 years ago. There was another who is a nurse who works for a local doctor who said they were just talking about me the other day because they had a "Trans-Gendered" person in the office and the Doctor mentioned he knew another one "Louise", I go to his sisters restaurant where we've met a few times and my wife has also been his patient.

Anyway, I was glad to get home and rest my feet. Tonight I go out again in Costume, It's a total contrast, I'll have a couple pictures. 

Trp to NYC

Last Friday I went to NYC as Louise to the Javits Center for the annual Photo Expo. I enjoy the interaction and expressions from some people, usually people VERY polite but seem to be becoming more accepting or they just aren't sure or maybe don't care any longer that there's a Cross-dresser near them, although I have to say, I usually look better and dress classier than most of the women I see and I am critical about the way women look. 

When we were nearing NYC, there was a young lady sitting next to me who started to make herself up, she had a pretty full assortment of items in a makeup bag. At the same time there was another woman in the seat next to ours  (about 45-50) who obviously had some social issues and was listening to an IPod with ear phones and was hopping up and down and mouthing the music, she definitely had juvenile manners. As she was expressing her enthusiasm I rolled my eyes which the lady next to me saw in the refection of the plastic cover behind the divers seat (I like to sit where I can see forward). I guess she released I was somewhat stable and avoided any comment about the (nut) and said "your makeup is beautiful", we only had a few minutes conversation but it was very friendly.

I chose to use the restroom on the bus this time, usually I enjoy the reactions when I walk into the men's room at Port Authority but the be honest the mirror was much better on the bus and the room was clean, it was just difficult walking from the front to the back and the front again while the bus was moving. Also, I found that I could take the elevator down to where I wanted to be without walking all over the bus station to the rest room and my feet were starting to hurt because my Doctor suggested I stop my "water pill" and my feet started to swell (just my luck).

Once I got onto the street I headed to the Javits Center, it's not a bad walk but in heels and swollen feet it's like "Chinese Torture" and I'm not really a Masochist. Once I got to the front of the Center I sat down to let my feet rest, a gentleman saw me and started a conversation and sat down RIGHT next to me. He was polite and possibly he didn't realize what I was, but he kept the conversation going as if I was a "Normal" person, it was just casual, where I was from and if I was a photographer.

Once I got into the Javits Center I glanced around to get an idea of which way to go, I went to the last row and just walked up and down. I was sort of disappointed, no one made any comments, although their focus was on the equipment, a few venders made eye contact and smiled but they saw I wasn't interested in their item so politely waved as I walked by, one man called me over and said, I see you almost every year, you always look so nice, I just wanted to shake your hand and compliment you. He said he was in some city in Ohio and when he came out of the Hotel he saw a large billboard which said "Marriage should be between a man and a woman", he said he was taking a picture of it and a man came up to him and said I'm glad you agree with our view, he said "that's not why I'm taking the picture" it's because I want to show people how retarded some people still are, I did have to inform him I am married to a woman.

 

I spent about 3 hours at the show and had made previous arrangements to go to dinner with another CD, Allison. I took a cab over the CDI apartment (a new location), which is a very nice place. Allison has just retired and has been on HRT for about 5 years (I think she said). She has just come out in public, although her wife knows she is NOT accepting. Allison looks VERY good, 100% convincing and a nice highly educated respectful person. I'm grateful for her thoughtfulness in meeting and going to dinner with me.

After dinner Allison left and I walked back to the bus station, by now my feet felt elephant size. I had to wait about an hour for our bus and fell asleep on the trip home; I didn't wake until we parked in AC, so the trip and pain were moot for me on the way back. I called my wife and she picked me up within 20 minutes.

I'm not really sure I'll go back again; to be honest it's a lot of effort anymore. I have to be up by 5 AM to get made-up, dress and get to the bus. I forgot to mention, I texted my son and told him I was in the city and he asked if I wanted to go to dinner with him and the family and stay overnight. He was working in Edgewater and I would take the Ferry over and he would pick me up, but coming back is about 45 minuets from his home and then either the ferry or he would drive into the city, I figured it was too much trouble and I'm not comfortable staying overnight even if I'm not en-fem, besides I'll be up there in a couple weeks for my granddaughters birthday.

A picture from Last Year

Just had to share

The BBQ that didn't happen

Last weekend we were invited to a BBQ at the Bird Sanctuary in Brigantine. It seems lately we've been spending so much time over there and have met so many nice friends we should consider moving to the city.

Sunday happened to be one of the windiest days in the past year. I had dressed because it was a Saturday afternoon and afterwards the normal routine is to go to Karaoke which I usually go as Louise and wouldn't have time to dress up.

As we get to the beach area of the Bird Sanctuary (which I had checked out the week before and had no difficulty driving on) I notice no one is there, although I see another car parked way up by the lookout tower witch I presumed my had be one of the party goers so I start to drive towards the car following her path. I get about half way and I start to sink into the sand. I stop and try to back out, well I'm going no place, the wind must be 30+++ miles P H and my wig wants to blow off, just then Millie gets a text saying the party was relocated to our friends house to the wind (if I had known 30 seconds earlier I would have avoided this situation).

So there I am trying to work myself out, the person in the 4 wheel drive who was in front of us is on the tower waving and I'm stuck, she must think I'm playing. Anyway after about 2 or 3 minuets and sinking to my frame I finally had mad a little track to some harder sand and was able to pull forward enough to then backup with momentum and drive out of the ditch I put myself in.

We finally get to the party and a few minutes later the woman who was on the tower comes in and asks if I was the person stuck, I said yeah, she said "Oh I have all kinds of chains and rope, I've pulled people out before". Oh well what do you say after that.

Now for the rest of the story. The home owner asks her neighbors to come over, it's 2 men, we weren't sure of the relationship till about a half hour later, but the one is married to the others sister (brother in laws) but for some reason he would say "partner" so it was confusing.

After an hour or so, and Millie being fed a few Adult Beverages (I've mentioned she's part Native American) she was "feeling her Oats" want to share one of her Karaoke songs with the two men she never met before, the song is "The Rodeo Song" and is quite obscene, to say the least. So she's in her glory and does it "acapella". The one new gentleman turns to her and says "I AM a Baptist Minister", well what do you say after that. There I am all dressed up, my wife is singing a highly offensive song and in the company of a Baptist Minister no less, you CAN'T script this stuff (at least I can't).

So obviously everyone try's to mitigate the embarrassment and we go one with the party. The 2 gentlemen are invited to the Karaoke lounge which they seem to be undecided about because they were moving things out of the condo to take home till next year and wanted an early start.

So now it's about 9:30PM at Karaoke and the host wants Millie to sing her song because there's a group of women at one end of the bar harassing him, Millie in all her glory just starts to belt out her "Rodeo Song" and at the first "Fuc*king" when in walks the Minister and his B-I-L. All we could do is laugh like hell and guess what, he comes over and sits next to me and insists on his picture with me. Oh he's single, never married.

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unsung hero

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Friday night I went to an UPSCALE lounge (for me 11.50 for a glass of wine in Margate NJ qualifies). The Miss America Pageant officials happened to be there for dinner, I didn't interact with any of them, it was a "Black Tie" affair.

I went into the lounge/dance area and was greeted by an acquaintance with his wife, they button holed me and he insisted on offering me a beverage, I don't really like that for a couple reasons, I feel I might need to reciprocate to the person and who they're with and then I have to be polite and stay with them till I'm done with the drink before I can go to my next "Victim" (so to speak). But it was a nice conversation and I discovered this person is a VERY respected artist with highly desired paintings, I think I'll consider buying one, he had some images on his phone and they were outstanding.

I was done my drink and started to walk around when I was beckoned over by the sister of a guy I used to race bike with (he cross-dresses too, but is closeted and a little slutty, he doesn't know I know and I don't think his sister knows either). She introduced me to a person who happened to be a pretty interesting person, he's a commercial pilot and said he fly's all the big stuff, 757's and things like that, I don't keep track of airplanes, but I know that's much bigger than a tractor trailer. 

I mentioned to him my wife had made up 3 pilots who are cross-dressers, he was a little surpassed and then he asked if I knew about the person who created Sirius Radio, I said no, he said he's a Trans Sexual. I looked up this person, Martine Rothblatt   >>> link to interview.

http://www.ted.com/talks/martine_rothblatt_my_daughter_my_wife_our_robot_and_the_quest_for_immortality?share=156038002d

The irony about this person is NOT that they are a transsexual, the important subject here is she is VERY modest about his sexual identity, definitely NOT a Caitlyn "Bruce" Jenner in either appearance, polarity or need to be as flamboyant in promoting her sexual identity.

It is her qualifications as a true GENUS and contributions to technology, medicine and lifestyles without any flag waving about over coming personal demons, she's a "pull up your boots" and do it person, a role model for anyone of any lifestyle regardless of any orientation.

Watch the interview

 http://www.ted.com/talks/martine_rothblatt_my_daughter_my_wife_our_robot_and_the_quest_for_immortality?share=156038002d